How to make relationship LAST...
him: Today at 3:41pm - me: 12:10pm 1. BE REALISTIC ABOUT EACH OTHER.
Don't try to turn ur partner into something he is not.Let's face it,guys there's only 1 Pamela
Anderson in the world,&even she had her implants removed! Give ur gal a break and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change overnight with the help of a few facials or treatments. And ladies, Aga Muhlach or Brad Pitt has already been taken,so u're gonna have to do with what ur guy is like! Chill out, love each other for what u are.There is more to ur partner than what meets the eye.2. ALWAYS TALK THINGS OUT.
Now guys,I know this isnt ur fave pastime or mode of resolving issues,but u know what?Don't make assumptions about each other's feelings.Learn to xpress urself better so that ur partner understands what u're angry about,or hurt about,or even happy about!When u stop talking to each other from the heart,it's the beginning of the end.3. DO STUFF TOGETHER.
Make an effort to do things together.Do some sports or involve urselves in some shared
activities;something both of u enjoy or are interested in.It could be as simple as watching
movies together,or just strolling hand-in-hand down Roxas Boulevard.If u're spending more time with ur friends rather than with ur partner, it's a warning sign that u're drifting apart!!!
4. MEET EACH OTHER HALWAY.
If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The_Rock" print,u shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks u to keep ur room tidy.There's gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship,so learn to meet each other halfway.5. SHOW UR LOVE.
Buy her flowers or chocknut or perfume everynow and then,even if u have been together for
5years.It's wonderful to continue showing someone that u care for him or her.Cook him a special meal,paint him a Valentine's Day card.So he knows u can still be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite a while. 6. RESPECT EACH OTHER.
Stop making jokes about her hair or skin,or whatever it is u love to laugh at.Ask urself if she
thinks if its funny.& if he has an inferiority complex about his height,stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse!Love is about respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.7. BURY THE PAST.
Stop bringing up the past.Don't bring up the happy things about u and ur ex to ur partner,it would just make him jealous or unhappy.don't talk about the happy times that u had with ur ex or mention about him in ur every other sentence as it would make ur partner feel un-happy & he might think that u saying all this b'cos u are gonna get back with ur
ex or not interested in him anymore.8. SIT ON UR JEALOUSY.
All of us go thru' spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship,but don't translate that insecurity into jealousy.If u're gonna go through ur partner's mail and cupboard,& eavesdropping on conversations,u know something is wrong - with u!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru' the relationship before finally killing it.Trust ur partner;love has to have trust in it.
9. KEEP UR COMMITMENTS TO EACH OTHER.
If ur partner is standing u up all the time and cancelling dates and breaking promises,u need to talk!If u're in a relationship,make ur partner ur priority and don't disappoint them if u can help it.It's really terrible when someone promises to take u to dinner,and then calls to cancel it.Don't make promises u can't keep.If ur partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to u, u may just lose him/her.10. BE HONEST.
Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning,or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly!When we say "be honest",we mean expressing ur feelings clearly,not being bitingly cruel.When u're hurt,say so,& when u're angry,tell him/her,w/o getting hysterical.If u can't be honest with ur partner,who can u be honest with?Love is also about honesty,& a relationship where no honesty exists probably isn't worth it!
my note: hon, thank you so much for this insight! i really learned so many things. love youƝℯՀ❤